Some of you know that this blog has been around for a really long time (originally at Homeschool Journal). I’m not sure how long. Maybe 8 years? It’s been a while, though, and I have always been a rather transparent blogger. I believe in full disclosure, shots of messy houses, confessions and real stuff.
Which all gets tricky in the teen years.
You may have noticed that I don’t blog nearly as much as I used to. Part of the reason is because I’m pretty darned busy. I have 5 kids to homeschool now, plus I write four columns, cook three meals a day (or so) from scratch, do several billion loads of laundry per week, do all kinds of crazy homesteading and foraging jobs, and occasionally try to check in on two blogs. And that doesn’t even get into all the housework I should be doing. 🙂
But it’s also because my little homeschool students are growing up, and they don’t necessarily want me broadcasting their news to my world.
Look how that little girl that I kept accidentally giving mullets to over the years has grown up! And she’s the little sister. 🙂
My big kids don’t necessarily want me broadcasting their lives, and I don’t blame them in the least.
But still, this is hard for me, for many reasons.
- I love them and am proud of them, and still want to tell all about their current loves, interests and accomplishments.
- I have always used this blog to try to share advice and support from a BTDT perspective, to help others who might face the same issues. This worked fine when I shared information on surviving your four year old, but it’s not really okay to share specifics on surviving your sixteen year old when said sixteen year old may have friends reading (I’m surprised and confused at how many of my teens’ friends apparently read this blog!).
- Their lives are a big part of my life, which makes it hard for me to come here and talk about my own life if I need to respect their privacy.
- It seems disingenuous to blog about fluffy things when big things are a big part of our life at times. During those times, I stay silent because it feels fake to just talk about the little things.
So I’m still trying to navigate these years as a writer/blogger/jabbermouth.
I respect my kids and will not post about things that are personal to them, but I also believe in the community of blogging in order to support each other and form a new sort of network for this new age.
And considering how many bloggers have completely given up on the idea of blogging for connection and community and have instead embraced blogging as a way to try to make money, there are fewer and fewer authentic blogs out there of moms just trying to support each other. I don’t want to give up being a part of that.
Good grief, do I know how much we need connection, community and support during times in parenting, homeschooling, and yes, raising teens.
Luckily, I still have little ones to write about and design lesson plans around and all that fun stuff. And I hope to start posting about them soon, too.
But I also hope to post more about the teen years here in the near future. All with permission, of course. Because frankly, we need each other in those times as much as the others.
And I miss the blabbing. 😉